Self-love is something that gets thrown around in our day-to-day lives. Hasn’t anyone ever said to you “you need to love yourself more”? Well, what is self-love? Is it something we can buy in Morrison’s? And if it is, which isle can I find it in?


The short answer is no. Self-love isn’t something which you can buy from a super market.

Self-love is something much more than that. Self-love is something we need to cultivate ourselves. It is a feeling of appreciation which we have for ourselves, the whole of us, the good, the bad, the shortcomings and everything else in between. Self-love is something that constantly grows and something we continue to develop throughout our lives. This growth stems from our actions, our thoughts and how we live our lives day to day.


A friend of mine and amazing  poet, writer, yoga teacher and creator of The Heart Centre love school in the USA, Zach Beach says “While we have conquered and crossed the world with our intellect, we have yet to conquer the world with our love.”  Zach is right when he says that progress has left the heart behind and love continues in its infancy; he talks about this in his book The Seven Lessons of Love.


So why do we need self-love?

By first loving ourselves, we can then transmit this to our relationships with others and to the world around us. Loving ourselves will allow our relationships to grow and develop. You might ask yourself “why do I need to love myself before I can find true love?”; but ask yourself this: how can you truly believe someone when they tell you that they love you if you yourself don’t think that you are capable of being loved?

Each of us beautiful human beings are unique and special in our own way. Loving yourself isn’t egotistical or vain; loving yourself is accepting yourself as you are, as the true and real you, as the person you see in the mirror every morning who deserves to be loved wholly including the flaws and imperfections which set ourselves apart from everyone else. I believe that we should strive to accept that each of us were created exactly as we are meant to be and that this is the person we are and we shouldn’t be scared to showcase this to the world.


So how can we cultivate self-love and learn to love ourselves?

  1. Take good care of yourself. Take good care of your basic needs.  Nourish yourself with healthy food, exercise, get enough sleep and do things you enjoy. Sometimes it’s simple things like having a nice bath and using a nice body lotion that nourishes your skin. It might seem superficial but if you look after yourself you can easily generate that feeling of self-love. When we were babies, our parents would look after us, now that we are adults we need to make sure we keep on looking after ourselves.

  2. Try and be mindful. Live in the present moment, tune into what you think, feel and want. Practice doing the things you want rather than the things others want for you.

  3. Set boundaries – Say no to the things that don’t serve you. For example, it’s fine to say no to arrangements or commitments that would take up too much of your personal time and to things that would emotionally drain you.

  4. Bring the right people into your life and let go of those that harm you. Anyone who hinders your growth as a person and is not happy of your success in life and achievements is not a true friend. Surround yourself with people who bring you good energy.

  5. Live your life with purpose. This doesn’t mean you need to know what your path is and what your purpose on this earth is, it simply means setting intentions and following through with them. These can be simple things like to live a healthy life. When you follow through with your personal intentions you will cultivate within yourself emotions of achievement and success that will empower your self-love and give you more inspiration to continue on this fruitful journey.


They say it takes 21 days to create a new habit so why not choose one of the five things in the above list and see if you can work on it for the next month. Then you can add another and another, slowly building and cultivating on that self-love which you and everyone on this earth deserve to feel!


With love Marisa


As it is commonly known, the shoulder stand. It is said that the shoulder stand is the mother of yoga postures. But before we go into the benefits of this pose what does sarvangasana mean? “Sarva” means entire and “anga” means limbs, so literally translated it means the posture that is good for the whole body.


There any many benefits of practising the shoulder stand as it is a full body pose. Below I have listed those which I think are the top 10:

  1. As with all inversions where our legs are above our head, the shoulder stand allows our blood to drain and flow back to towards our heart, brain, eyes, ears and throat. This means that fresh blood circulates into these lower regions of our body and stagnant blood is removed.

  2. For women it is beneficial for our reproductive systems as we pump fresh blood into our pelvic region and flush out any stagnant blood.

  3. It allows our legs to take a break as they are constantly working hard carry the weight of our body all day. This reduced blood pressure in the blood vessels of our legs aids anyone with varicose veins.

  4. The shoulder stand lengthens the spinal nerves and this allows us to let go of any tension we may be holding in our head and neck bringing relief to these areas.

  5. It tones the muscles of the gluteus, back, thighs and abdominals. It also strengthens our neck, upper back and shoulders.

  6. Improves the function of the thyroid, parathyroid and pituitary glands due to the increase oxygen and blood. All of the other endocrine glands are regulated by the pituitary gland and so the overall function of the endocrine system is improved. This results in the improved functioning of all other systems of the body and the reduction of emotional and mental stress.

  7. It helps with hemorrhoids as it relieves the normal gravitational pressure from the anus muscles.

  8. Helps insomnia as it facilitates blood supply to the head, ear, nose and throat region.

  9. Benefits those who suffer with migraines and headaches as it enhances blood supply to the head region.

  10. And finally it aids digestion as the change in gravity helps the bowels move freely which in turn aids digestion significantly.

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